Thursday, April 1, 2010

Ignored

Ever feel like you are intentionally being ignored? From most people I just don't give a damn, but when the ignoring cold shoulder is coming from a very dear friend it hurts. I don't like the feeling that I get from it at all, and over having differing views regarding the health care insurance reform no less. I said my thoughts on it, I backed it up with credible information and then I backed away so that we didn't argue an say things that would later be regretted. But by standing up for my thoughts and for saying hey fact check before you get riled up and post fear mongering lies I could possibly lose one of the best friends I have ever had. You know the kind of friend that no matter how much time or distance passes between you, you can pick up a conversation right were you left off at? The kind where you don't have to talk because you are such kindred spirits that words are superfluous. That's what makes it that much harder, that one disagreement would put a rift between us and end it. I wish I was just imagining it, that it was all in my head and I am just being selfish and self centered (hey it's been known to happen before!) but I don't think it's the case. I never would have pegged her for the passive aggressive cold shoulder giver.

New topic, that was depressing. I got up and did the Buns of Envy workout today. Um, yeah. I said I wanted a challenge and I found it. This one literally kicked my ass. When it was over I was too nauseous to even have my after workout snack like I always do. Poor Pixie (who so sweetly went and got the snack for me when she saw I was done) was surprise when I turned down the treat she brought. It took me about 20 minutes to recuperate before I could even think about getting in the tub! I am still feeling it and I just know tomorrow I will wake up with some very sore legs and buns. Which means I will likely work on my arms or abs tomorrow and let my poor legs have a break. And that P90x might really be a bad idea if a 20 minute bun workout laid me out lol

9 comments:

  1. I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this. One of the things I've learned about friendship is that you can't change someone, if you're gonna be friends you've got to allow differences. Heck, look at us!! A lot of major differences and a lot of similarities. I wouldn't dream though of trying to change your beliefs or opinions to match mine as a condition of friendship. I respect your individuality. I hope this can be resolved in the case with your dear friend.

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  2. Thanks Rebecca! I agree with you and I do hope it all works itself out.

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  3. I was gonna say, I hope that's not me you're talking about, but then you said health care reform, lol, and I know I haven't been avoiding you.
    I've said it before, I know you feel strongly about a few certain things and I would hope that whatever differences of opinion we have that it would not come between our friendship. I'm sorry that it apparently has between you and this other person. Is this someone we both know?
    Onto the other news, I hope that the workout hangover was temporary and you just increase tolerance towards it--I know how much we wanted a challenge :)

    Caroline

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  4. by the way, LOVE the new background!

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  5. Well, I still like you, and I promise if I ever give you the cold shoulder it will be over circumcision, not health care. J/K. LOL!

    Sometimes it only feels like it's you. Sometimes it's just other stuff going on, and you wander into the way. Hopefully things will work out.

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  6. I hope things work out for you and your friend. I sort-of went through something similar recently. I'm a firm believer that friends should agree to disagree because no one is alike. I mean, I agree with many things you say, but there are areas where we differ HUGELY. I don't think any less of you. I still think you are an amazing woman, just with a different opinion.

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  7. CC -- nope not you! And not someone you know, yet anyways. I promise if I get upset with you over circumcision I won't cold shoulder you but I can't promise to be nice ;-)

    The workout hangover is over but omg I am so sore and loving it! I finally feel like I got a workout and not just some good stretching.

    LOL Vicki! I am trying to be more open minded to the religious reasons for it but my brain just has a hard time wrapping itself around mutilating for religious beliefs :P At least we can agree to disagree and keep on keeping on as we seem to agree on damn near every thing else.

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  9. nope... that would be me she's talking about.

    I was not intentionally being passive agressive. I typed an entire response on FB - and chose to erase it along with the entire thread of other comments because there was a seriously negative vibe and I am not about that. Not even to "back up my fear mongering with facts".

    I also typed an entire response to your first blog about me... and I hit a wrong button, erased it and cried for 30 minutes.

    Your choice to address me publically on your blog and insult my level of intellegence specifically, hurt. It really has nothing to do with our political differences - of which I haven't even had the chance to share so you really have no idea where I stand on anything other than health care- but has everything to do with me choosing peace and not feeling as if I really needed to justify myself or my feelings if it meant contributing to a negative situation.

    For the record... I am a lover of all things good and peaceful. I am a lover of liberty ( not to be read "Libertarian" or "republican" or "democrat" or "tea bagger" or even independant)and I believe in a better way that has little to do with the bullshit on capital hill. I can see past people's political affiliations and hear the wisdom that comes from carefully thought out opinions. I am open minded and entertain all of the many possibilities regarding the things that the govt decides that may affect my life directly. We are all fools if we don't. What one calls fact, another calls fiction. THAT is a fact.

    I'm sorry that my silence on the issue upset you... I didn't intend to hurt you. Your words and method of delivery crushed me. I didn't know what else to do. I'm only delivering this publically because you are. This was my issue more so than the politics :-( How would you feel being called names and insulted publically online wheather your name was used or not?

    Maybe instead of a blog, an email to talk about it would have been a better choice. I do love you, Jennie. I'm just hurt and humiliated.

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